several issues with out podman page:

• podman 5.0.0 was released last week but broken for quarkus users on non-linux - 5.0.1 fixes it but not released yet, if users used podman desktop they would have gotten 4.9.x which has better windows/osx testing
• on osx we tell users to use brew (gets 5.0), install qemu (not compatible with 5), devservices works but podman ps and podman desktop picks 5.0 where testcontainers picks the qemu hosted one
• alias podman=docker just isn't likely to work - better to use ppodman desktop guided install
• cross build should be fixed in 4.9 and better in 5.0 (need to be tested - but our current instructions only apply for certain combos)

Here is my attempt on cleaning up so we at least have higher chance of users with quarkus on podman.

Those who want to manually install each part can do so - but with podman desktop we are more likely to have things working for more users.