Goal of this task is to simply add a feature gate both upstream to OVNK and to downstream in ocp/api to then leverage via CNO once the entire feature merges. This is going to be a huge EPIC so with the break down, this card is intentionally ONLY tracking the glue work to have a feature gate piece done in both places.

1. Controller changes must leverage this feature gate,
2. test changes must leverage this
3. all topology changes that depend on "specific ifs for this feature" need this feature gate
4. be smart about the naming cause it will be user facing in docs
5. also expose it via KIND

This card DOES NOT HAVE TO USE THE FEATURE GATE. It is meant to allow other cards to use this.