Improve resiliency of retrying commits on state transfer

The current implementation of ISPN-1484 will retry up to 3 times to retry a commit on a remote node. This is resilient to 3 state transfers happening in rapid succession. However, if the cluster loses > 3 nodes, there can still be stale locks.

This is evident in testing this with the TopologyAwareConsistentHash. I lost a "site" consisting of 4 nodes, and I was able to get stale locks.